Why would a man wear a chastity device?
The average man would immediately reject the notion of wearing such a device, as it represents both a loss of something dearly important, as well as unnecessary and uncomfortable. But after the initial reaction, some men become curious. Men who think they may have a sexual-related problem and/or a submissive nature sometimes will look at these as something of a solution, or something exciting that could add to their relationship. Once a man realizes that wearing the device is totally voluntary, curiosity could lead to giving it a try.
Based on feedback from our customers, the reasons include:
Needed to help restore trust in a relationship with your wife or life partner after a loss of self-control.
Self-protection to resist undesired impulses for sexual encounters.
Control of compulsive masturbation problems.
To spice up your marriage by surrendering control of your orgasms to your partner.
The feelings and sensations that a man may derive from wearing such a device include:
Maintained focus (fewer sexual distractions)
Self-confidence (no need to be concerned about resisting temptation)
A sense of constant, low-level arousal when you think about your wife or partner holding the key
Fewer arousing dreams during sleep (once you get used to it)
Loss or reduction of arrogance when you’ve given the key to someone you love
Greater self-discipline and temperament
Greater ability to trust yourself and others
The above is not an all-inclusive list, and certainly not every man will experience all of these feelings and sensations.
Why would a woman want her man to wear a chastity device?
Not all women take to the idea of having her man locked up in a chastity device, at least not initially. But based on feedback from our customers, the reasons include:
To help restore trust in a relationship when there is suspicion or evidence of extra-marital affairs.
Similarly, women who have been hurt by a former partner’s infidelity may want her man to wear one for her own sense of security.
Some women find it very erotic to be able to control their man’s orgasm.
A man will try harder to please his woman if there is a chance she will deny him access to the key; consequently he’s more attentive and helpful around the home.
As long as he is wearing it, you will never again have to worry about him leaving the toilet seat up.
Generally, when the wife is holding the key and knows that he is locked, she will experience:
a greater sense of security and trust with your man
a sense of control that some women find very erotic
more attention and affection, and fore-play during sex
some women find that they want to dress and behave more sexily to further stimulate their man (teasing and denial), which in-turn stimulates her own sex drive.
The above is not an all-inclusive list, and certainly not every woman will experience all of these feelings and sensations.
Questions about wearing a device
Are chastity devices visible under clothing?
Generally, the devices are very discrete. Loose-fiiting pants are recommended, and darker colored pants tend to be even better. Of all of the plastic devices, the Vice Mini and Standard, CB-6000S and CB-3000 are the most discrete for most men.
Silicon models such as Birdlocked and Dick Cage can be very discrete on men that have adequate slack in the scrotum, otherwise can be very conspicuous. Bon-4 silicon is a little more discrete in this regard. However the soft and flexible material can be “compressed” with the use of tight-fitting underwear, which helps make it more discrete.
Holy Trainer is very discrete for most men.
Bon-4M and other metal devices will vary from one man to the next
About being discovered: you will learn over time that you are far more conscious of the bulge that you can see than other people are. As long as your clothes are loose fitting, nobody will ever know. Swimming poses a different problem though, as wet trunks tend to cling to the lines of your body, therefore could be more noticeable. People that notice would likely dismiss it has having a large member. You could diminish that by wearing tight fitted underwear under your clothes to keep it closer to your body; spandex panties work well, if you’re willing to wear them.
How long does it take to get used to wearing a male chastity device?
It will vary from man to man, of course. Initially it will feel awkward, but after a while once the right fit is found – typically a few hours to a few days – it will come to feel more natural, and you will become less and less aware of it as time goes on. You may even find it to be pleasant to wear most of the time, as it would be a constant reminder of your partner, or at least of your own sexuality.
Many men experience painful nocturnal erections during the early days of wear. This does tend to pass with time (1-2 weeks, typically) as the mind retrains itself to not have erections during sleep.
What happens if I get an erection?
Technically, you can’t get an erection, though your body may try to produce one. As it becomes harder, it will cause increasing pressure within the device, which will discourage the erection. When you are conscious, you will only be able to get aroused, but not fully hard. Night time erections are a little different, as you may get harder than you might while awake, and it could be painful until the erection subsides or until the device is removed.
The normal swelling that comes with arousal could put pressure on the device, and in some cases could cause the tube to crack. If that happens, CAREFULLY remove the device immediately and contact us for replacement. Then pat yourself on the back – not every man can exert such pressure!
What should I do if I experience an erection in my sleep?
This is pretty common during the first few weeks of wear. Unconsciously it can be somewhat stimulating, which could provoke an erection that would be uncomfortable, even somewhat painful while locked up. If you wake up in that condition, it’s best to remove the device for the reminder of the night, and try it again the next night. Eventually, your mind will be trained not to become aroused during sleep, and you will be able to sleep normally. If the key is not readily available, use a cold wet washcloth on the testicles to help the erection subside.
How long is it safe to wear a male chastity device?
Some men can wear these devices for weeks, even months at a time! Others may not be able to last as long as a week. Your own experience will dictate how long it can be worn. But always practice safety and err on the side of caution. If it becomes uncomfortable to wear, remove it for a day or two. If you plan to wear for longer than 10 days, you should consider some means to drain the prostate to keep it healthy. In lieu of ejaculation, there is a process called “milking” which involves massaging the prostate to allow the seminal fluids to drain through the penis – effectively pre-ejaculatory fluids – that if left alone too long could develop bacteria and cause health issues.
You may also have some hygiene issues, e.g. odor after a few days of wear. Cleanliness is essential, though can be difficult. Wash with soap and water, flush with a shower as best you can. It would be advisable to remove the device every few days for a thorough cleaning before reapplying.
How do I find the right fit?
There isn’t many adjustments that can be made to a silicon model once the item has been acquired (aside from the Bon-4 ring selection). For Birdlocked you would have to replace the whole unit. For Dick Cage, you could order a different sized ring. Bon-4 has four rings, so you should be able to find one that will work best. Please see our sizing guides to help select the right ring size
CB-X and Vice Models:
Typically this is done by trial and error. You should first find the the smallest ring that you can fit into, then go up one size. If the ring is too small, the skin of the scrotum will become pinched and irritated usually within a few hours. If it is too loose, it will spin rather freely, which could result in some uncomfortable twisting, at least on some models. As for spacing, as little as 1/8″ can make a huge difference. Make it tight initially, but watch your testicles closely for signs of discoloration or coldness. If found, take it off immediately and next try a slightly larger spacer. You must be careful not to use too large of a spacer, otherwise the testicles may pull themselves through, which is about as painful as a groin kick! Ultimately, you will find the right combination of rings and spacers that will allow you to wear the device comfortably for several days at a time, or longer.
Like the silicon models, if the ring that you order is not correct, you would need to buy another. We do offer discounts for rings and cages within a few weeks of purchase.
If you get a hot pinching or burning sensation under your balls, it is typically caused by the skin folding, and can be relived by stretching the skin out to eliminate the fold, using both hands. This might mean that the ring is too small, but not necessarily. Check the ring for imperfections such as ridges or pits; if found, these can be replaced under warranty.
Some men have a high/tight ball sac. If this is the case it may take a little longer to get a comfortable exact fit. For the best results the ball sac should hang slightly below the ring and the cage portion. Silicon models will not work for men with this condition. Holy Trainer and plastic models are best suited for such a man.
Can I stand up to urinate while the device is attached?
Technically it is possible, though not advisable. You must have your urator slot lines up EXACTLY right, and your penis must fill the tube to the end. If not, you are likely to spray all over the place. It’s best to sit while peeing, for all concerned. Your wife (if you are married) will love you even more for doing so. 🙂
How do I keep my male chastity device clean
One of the biggest challenges of living the enforced male chastity lifestyle is keeping your chastity device and your penis clean, odor free and prevent both bacterial and fungal infections.
Remember that being locked in a male chastity device is a lot like wearing a tight rubber glove for a prolonged period of time. The inside of that glove can get an odor, a nasty sticky build-up caused by body oils and normal perspiration. This is an unhealthy condition. To prevent any problems it is necessary to keep yourself clean. Part of keeping yourself healthy is to keep your penis and balls as dry as possible warmth and moisture are potential breeding grounds for bacterial and fungal infections.
To this end, cotton swabs or “Q” tips with a large soft tip can be used to dry out the inside of the tube after hot sweaty work, swimming, showers. Over the years I have developed some “tricks” that can help all men who are locked up for love.
First: Every time you urinate: Use a small plastic “flip spout” bottle to rinse the inside of the tube with a mixture of 20 % mouthwash and water. Use the less expensive mouthwash that contains a mint scent and alcohol. After the wash, clean any remaining drops with a small piece of toilet tissue or a large soft tipped cotton swab.
Second: Daily/morning shower:
Step One: Use a foam tipped cleaner to apply Johnson’s baby head to toe baby wash to a foam tipped cleaner and work it up along the insides.of the tube.
Step Two: use a directional shower head set on tight, pulsating stream to blast water up into the tube.
Step Three: wash externally all around with the genital area with the Baby wash.
Step Four: Dry everything that you can with a towel; then use a hair dryer set on very low heat or no heat to dry inside of the tube.
Step Five: using gel type baby oil on a foam tipped applicator lightly coat the tip of the penis and up inside the tube.
Step Six : apply a lotion to the balls and around the trap or testis ring.
Weekly: We recommend that all enforced chastity devices be removed and the penis be thoroughly cleaned at least once weekly.